Heard something interesting today. Creflo dollar's doing a series on principles of living or somethin like that and today he was talking about friends. (if you dont know creflo..ki ka! that dude who we fundraised for like crazy to come visit us at Miracle Centre..(not my church..i just heard heard...)..who owns his own plane, who beez riiiiiiiiiich, who believes in...(not time for that)

Aenewe, he was talking about friendship and abt how the temple kinda represents the different friendships we have. We have the outer courtyard, the inner courtyard and then the holy of holies, behind the vail/wall. so ur wat's up friends fall in the outer,people whose names u actually know and prolly hang out occassionally fall in the inner and then the holies are those who u actually know and have the power to hurt you, people you are intimate with.

once you become intimate with the Holy Spirit, He begins to transform your thinking,transform you. it becomes so bad that when u want to go back to smoking that weed, it dont taste the same, the drink dont give u that high u searching for. Hr will mess with your groove to keep you on the right track.

I thot that was interesting and very true.

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My dad amused me afew days ago. I rushed out of the house and realised i'd left the house keys behind so i ask him to place the key on the window thingy so i could find it. So off to the town i rush because i had to be back by midday to give someguy a camera.Naturally, i spent more time in town than i should have so i rush back knowing the daddy had hooked me up. when i got there, yes, the key was their but since the window was locked on the inside, i cldnt get to it. Not helpful that man! LOL..

I did get the chance to sit in his office tho, so that was pretty kewl.He changed secretaries so these ones have attiiiitude but i was just like..here on biz...dont mess!

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Keep forgetting to brag abt being tied on by a celebrity!! celebrity!!celebrity!! hmm...guess it wasnt that important by the time it has taken this long. anyway, he was all like "can u b my senorita"... i was like "duude, sooo lame!"

okay, twasnt like that ((grins)). actually saw the guy n thot he was another guy i know coz he was looking at me overly friendly like.. then he noted that he nu me not and started bringing out words whose first letter is the 6th in the alphabet and im like "so stereotype! cldnt u b original n actually know that u dont have to swear to be considered kewl??"

i'd always wanted to ask the chap a qn. In his song (cant remember title) he asks the chick "do you think of me, coz that is all i do". Always wondered if this meant he thot about himself all the time... if u havent figured out who this is then no, he aint a celeb LOL

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Landed on Jerry Springer. Mistress was telling wife of 5 yrs to back off. I thot that darn right funny...holding stomach rolling on floor funny. MBU she has had him for 5 yrs, its her turn now.

Wife is like we have been down this road before and on Jerry at that. Guy is always cheating, it aint the first time and it wont be the last.

Hubby comes on and declares how he actually doesnt care for the wife, but loves his kids and doesnt give a darn about the mistress. oooo turns out he was also sleeping with mistress's sister who gets horny and lonely at night.

U shda seen this guy. U wld be wondering, as i was, wat it was abt him that attracted all these women. I hear he walks the walk and talks the talk. Guess if a guy has "appeal" it doesnt really matter what he looks like.

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Was watching "third watch".(okay glance watched it)..dunno wat its really about, but guy said something that made sense. Apparently his chick had said she loved him and he hadnt said the words back. Later that day she almost died in an explosion so she tells him out right, its sooo over coz she's done wasting her time.

So guy goes like, "usually when we are in trouble, we call the first people that mean the most to us. You did not call me even once through the day to tell me you were okay. I cant say the words but everything i do is coz of these feelings for you. I ran the last five blocks to where you were because i was soo scared that i had lost you"

I thought..thats a point. You know your relationships a bit off point, if your "boo" doesnt even cross top 5 to inform when u happy, sad..watever.

I was talking to a friend about facebook last night and it happened to open up a tide of information. Apparently this dude wanted to change his relationship status but he couldnt because ,as you know, facebook has lugambo (LOL) and he knew his chick would see the notification so he chull and let go of all the pretties out there who were trying to rekindle the love.

At that point i was wondering just how serious he was about madam but decided not to ask plus i figured, if he really wanted me to know, he would tell me. This be the deal..

He has been with madam for close to a year now ((had no idea! n i thot we were tight!!))and she's talking marriage. Actually i think they both are but he's just not ready, apparently. He was chilling, minding his own biz when it hit him one day that chick was hot and they had that "life altering" conversation that ended in them becoming a couple. He thinks this was his first mistake.

Anyway, months down the road, they become comfy and start talking marriage and i think lured by the peacefullness of the moment, they come to a compromise on when they should get married, picked out kiddies names and all that.

I suspect dude started panicking soon after this.Now he's thinking he's too young to get married..he loves her but if some other dude came along and confused her, he would soooo be happy. He has employed a number of means to end the relationship but unfortunately he landed on a chick.

By chick i mean that chick who is pretty "there" on a number of issues. we can all be chicks but there be the usual chick "thereness" and then some.

He organised himself and asked her to let him know if she ever became unhappy. He would understand if one day she just chucked him. Her response..its okay! Like that could eeeeeeeeever happen!

Poor boy is biting his nails. He doesnt really want to do the deed, well not this soon anyway, he doesnt know what to do because if he brings up he fears the repurcussions so he's suffering in silence.

I was telling him to bring it up coz one day he will find himself married and he so clearly isnt ready. These things of being mother Tereza dont pay off if u are doing things just for Just. God forbid you get to 30 and u start checking out hot 21 yr olds on the low low.

in totally unrelated news heath ledger (28) was found dead in NewYork on tuesday. Sad. remember dude in "10 things i hate about you" esp. movie had some funny lines in it. May His Soul Rest in peace.

Now the actual post.....
So i read DesparateLady's story with deep compassion. I mean, no one should live through this.

The lufutfut of it is she was trying to forgive her younger sister as a result of her sis "stealing her man"..n i mean all out stealing. twas soo bad that one the day she discovered the betrayal, she kicked sis outa the house n cut all communication for two years. Two years!!!! Banange! Dunno if i cld do that, im generally one of those "motherearth type peeps" always wanting peace, love and democracy. Depressing, if u really think about it,twld mean being walked all over all the time...sigh...

But back to madams dilema, was speaking to someone who said your sis shouldnt do that to you. I agree. "Shouldnt" being the key word,because realistically, the only thing that changes is motivation when people set out to "get" your man.

Doll was also telling me how her sisters be over guyz and as sisters (4) they tend to have each others Xtics so its very possible that guyz myt move amongst them or be "confused" into thinkin he liked shelly more than Prissy or Doll or some odd nonsence. In such cases, tis ayt if the guy gets that u r just harmlessly "being around" and arent out to get him...unless ofcourse u are, then that presents a problem.

The Quarterback finks it shows the guy has good taste, if he moves within the family..lol..something to do with u atleast knowing the competition other than it being some chick u havent the slightest about.

Dunno abt that one.

My theory is however, that however tempting my friend,sister/enemy/watever is it all comes down to the guy. Should u decide to galivant with this other sister, then by all means do so..it means u were going to and i shdna trusted u to begin with. Plus in a wierd twist of fate, it also means u cannot be trusted by sister2...if she could "steal" you, u will be stolen from her too.. which is y playaz never prosper, DaMan. ((eh! did i just pull out a school motto!))

but back to DL (thats Desparate Lady) for u non followers (grins)was talking to yet another peep who thot DL had only herself to blame, she shda been honest right from the start, teling her sis she was engaged to the dude and all.

I dont see why i should tell u, i mean, its my relationship right, when im ready,i will tell u..no hurry in africa n all that!

Mbu,if she had said something, things wlda been sorted.

oo did i tell u that Mark n sis where dating thru the 2 yr peroid n infact sis was carryin his baby (at time of reconciation effort)???? i hear if her sis had told her, she wlda known, things would have been different.

I beg differ (result of reading many nigeran blogs!)altho after my most recent conversation, im not too sure...

My arguement was that by the time i throw u out for 2 yrs,it cant be coz u stole bestfriend, there's more to the story. But on further reflection, women are wierd! they can throw u out coz u jammed to sms them one day or u took like a comb for over its 5 minute limit. So tis actually possible that the sis thot twas something as simple as that.

Thing is if we are actually going to aportion blame, then MARK beez the problem.i mean he proposed to one chick and went n slept with the sis. N then didnt have the nerve to come back to DL to explain or even explain to this sis he'd been with for 2 yrs. like did he think twld neever come out???? plus,how do u live each day knowing u broke up a family??????

Men!!!

Eh..long time no write!

1.Friends birthday recently,made me realise i really am old! I mean, i dont think i look a day older than i did 5 yrs ago but im sure some peeps r looking at me like "shdnt that chick have left by now?? im sure she wasnt doing vet! she didnt feature in "familie" at any time"

***family (ie), top 5 kiddies as per grade system...sigh..those were the days!!

2.Another friend was asking if twas my years resolution to be silent and not hang anymore..this from a friend who stood me up. i just laughed myself silly.

3.Was talking to someone about starting a family. They said something i hadnt really ever thought about. Apparently all babies are mistakes. I will know explain how this works. If you do decide that you are ready to have a child, ideally you should have the money, the partner, the church/mosque/shrine support in place (if thats your thing), grandies set, nursery sorted...the list is endless. Ideally... u never ARE ready which means the baby bez a mistake.

4.Went to Wacky Wood on Gaba road, to see what the whole "you can do this with kids thing" was all about. Interesting set up. Basically, if u want to dull down that overly active kiddy, this is the place for u... plus they do have a mexican restuarant type thing for u to have a snack n lots of books n magazines for u to read. wil do an actual review when i actually make more than a flyin visit.

5.Went to the cinema..yes, this is indeed breaking news. Last i went was for some movie, i wont mention coz all of y'al wil be like T! so..lets just say ex-Bff took me (yes one of these days shall hook u up to). Saw Oliphant. Yes, for those of you who have watched the movie, u know this isnt the title of the movie, LOL. Twas "Hitman". its just my sis came back saying "Oliphant" thats main actor guy...agent 47 A.K.A Timothy Oliphant so the "title" kinda stuck.

6.Havent been to the dentist. Last they called twas for me to pass on a msg to the daddy that he had an appointment. I was soooooo happy they werent calling to remind me..okay! okay! need to see dude, but man, our relationship was becoming too much like a relationship! Dont see u and guy calls u up like "wat happened to us" sheeeeeeeesh!

7.Run into an old friend as if today. i was soo amused. Hadnt talked to him in a while. 3 minutes into the conversation n i remembered WHY i had thrown him out.

Even me i shall unlist what i b listening to. Shya! shall i b the only one left.. (for those of you who have questionable stomach issues, stay away....))

1. Crazy...Kci & Jojo
2. Dangerously in Love...Destiny's child (oba? nanti these marketing guyz b confused)
3. Oh well.. BoyzIIMen
3. Frozen... Madona
4. Like you'll Never see me again... Alicia Keys
5. Natural Woman... Aretha Franklin
6. Beautiful... James Blunt
7. Dont lie.. Black Eyed Peas
8. Radar... Britney Spears
9. Breaking dishes...Rihana
10. Digi...Ngoni

give it up for wackiest play list of the moment! yeah, suffle will do that to you. (grins)

Been holding onto these for a while...so understand :D

Here we have wandegeya on a tuesday, i think, once fuel became scarce.


Down town Kampala..the fruits of being idle....








My Prison Break Kid! He's cuuuuuute!


Ever seen garden City this full? look at all the heads! where the party at???


Not tooo late for fireworks...




Wandegs again...we clda had a party right in the middle of the road...EAAASY!!

kati...Assume i was in a relationship with dude A n we broke up.when asked if he would like to reconcile, he likens our relationship to a dog going back to lick its puke. Doesnt that more or less mean im puke?