I was talking to a friend about facebook last night and it happened to open up a tide of information. Apparently this dude wanted to change his relationship status but he couldnt because ,as you know, facebook has lugambo (LOL) and he knew his chick would see the notification so he chull and let go of all the pretties out there who were trying to rekindle the love.
At that point i was wondering just how serious he was about madam but decided not to ask plus i figured, if he really wanted me to know, he would tell me. This be the deal..
He has been with madam for close to a year now ((had no idea! n i thot we were tight!!))and she's talking marriage. Actually i think they both are but he's just not ready, apparently. He was chilling, minding his own biz when it hit him one day that chick was hot and they had that "life altering" conversation that ended in them becoming a couple. He thinks this was his first mistake.
Anyway, months down the road, they become comfy and start talking marriage and i think lured by the peacefullness of the moment, they come to a compromise on when they should get married, picked out kiddies names and all that.
I suspect dude started panicking soon after this.Now he's thinking he's too young to get married..he loves her but if some other dude came along and confused her, he would soooo be happy. He has employed a number of means to end the relationship but unfortunately he landed on a chick.
By chick i mean that chick who is pretty "there" on a number of issues. we can all be chicks but there be the usual chick "thereness" and then some.
He organised himself and asked her to let him know if she ever became unhappy. He would understand if one day she just chucked him. Her response..its okay! Like that could eeeeeeeeever happen!
Poor boy is biting his nails. He doesnt really want to do the deed, well not this soon anyway, he doesnt know what to do because if he brings up he fears the repurcussions so he's suffering in silence.
I was telling him to bring it up coz one day he will find himself married and he so clearly isnt ready. These things of being mother Tereza dont pay off if u are doing things just for Just. God forbid you get to 30 and u start checking out hot 21 yr olds on the low low.
At that point i was wondering just how serious he was about madam but decided not to ask plus i figured, if he really wanted me to know, he would tell me. This be the deal..
He has been with madam for close to a year now ((had no idea! n i thot we were tight!!))and she's talking marriage. Actually i think they both are but he's just not ready, apparently. He was chilling, minding his own biz when it hit him one day that chick was hot and they had that "life altering" conversation that ended in them becoming a couple. He thinks this was his first mistake.
Anyway, months down the road, they become comfy and start talking marriage and i think lured by the peacefullness of the moment, they come to a compromise on when they should get married, picked out kiddies names and all that.
I suspect dude started panicking soon after this.Now he's thinking he's too young to get married..he loves her but if some other dude came along and confused her, he would soooo be happy. He has employed a number of means to end the relationship but unfortunately he landed on a chick.
By chick i mean that chick who is pretty "there" on a number of issues. we can all be chicks but there be the usual chick "thereness" and then some.
He organised himself and asked her to let him know if she ever became unhappy. He would understand if one day she just chucked him. Her response..its okay! Like that could eeeeeeeeever happen!
Poor boy is biting his nails. He doesnt really want to do the deed, well not this soon anyway, he doesnt know what to do because if he brings up he fears the repurcussions so he's suffering in silence.
I was telling him to bring it up coz one day he will find himself married and he so clearly isnt ready. These things of being mother Tereza dont pay off if u are doing things just for Just. God forbid you get to 30 and u start checking out hot 21 yr olds on the low low.
socks, even when I am not trying.
I totally understand where ya friend is coming from.
If he wants his girl to let go of him, he should start acting like a total dick, but that sometimes doesn't work. I should know.
oh boy....dude is in big trouble!!!
dude needs to get a life. if he marries a chic he doesn't want to, that's his shit. in any case when it hits the fan, they run so fast leaving the girls an ugly mess.
men need to learn to say "it is over".
i think he should let her know the deal now,its better than actually marrying and ending up divorced.
she'll appreciate him for telling him if she knows the deal(well thats after she's cursed and rained fire on him for dumping her)
commitment is a two way street...if you do not meet in the middle that is recipe for disaster.
men!
he should respect her enough to tell her how he feels.
LOLz yeah he needs to talk to her. He needs to re-have one of those "life altering" conversations with her, only this time, it ends in him not being ready. Chances are, they are right for each other, just not now... if so, he doesnt want to lose her just because he isnt able to have the conversation to sort things out.
BTW Happy new Year
@Tandra
right on the head...
dope post
[My take]
dude seriously needs to grab some cojones!! really, learn to not only respect himself, but "shawtie" as well
but again, a yyear and marriage plans be popping huh!
and yeah, need some clarity on the usual chick "thereness"
@Sy
right-on
@returning
Where was you before you returned??
You do have a strong point too
Joined facebook but dont know why (i belived the hype), its just crap.
Anyhoo, this guy is a coward, and if he's not careful he'll find himself married with 2.5 children and it's 10yrs later.