in totally unrelated news heath ledger (28) was found dead in NewYork on tuesday. Sad. remember dude in "10 things i hate about you" esp. movie had some funny lines in it. May His Soul Rest in peace.
Now the actual post.....
So i read DesparateLady's story with deep compassion. I mean, no one should live through this.
The lufutfut of it is she was trying to forgive her younger sister as a result of her sis "stealing her man"..n i mean all out stealing. twas soo bad that one the day she discovered the betrayal, she kicked sis outa the house n cut all communication for two years. Two years!!!! Banange! Dunno if i cld do that, im generally one of those "motherearth type peeps" always wanting peace, love and democracy. Depressing, if u really think about it,twld mean being walked all over all the time...sigh...
But back to madams dilema, was speaking to someone who said your sis shouldnt do that to you. I agree. "Shouldnt" being the key word,because realistically, the only thing that changes is motivation when people set out to "get" your man.
Doll was also telling me how her sisters be over guyz and as sisters (4) they tend to have each others Xtics so its very possible that guyz myt move amongst them or be "confused" into thinkin he liked shelly more than Prissy or Doll or some odd nonsence. In such cases, tis ayt if the guy gets that u r just harmlessly "being around" and arent out to get him...unless ofcourse u are, then that presents a problem.
The Quarterback finks it shows the guy has good taste, if he moves within the family..lol..something to do with u atleast knowing the competition other than it being some chick u havent the slightest about.
Dunno abt that one.
My theory is however, that however tempting my friend,sister/enemy/watever is it all comes down to the guy. Should u decide to galivant with this other sister, then by all means do so..it means u were going to and i shdna trusted u to begin with. Plus in a wierd twist of fate, it also means u cannot be trusted by sister2...if she could "steal" you, u will be stolen from her too.. which is y playaz never prosper, DaMan. ((eh! did i just pull out a school motto!))
but back to DL (thats Desparate Lady) for u non followers (grins)was talking to yet another peep who thot DL had only herself to blame, she shda been honest right from the start, teling her sis she was engaged to the dude and all.
I dont see why i should tell u, i mean, its my relationship right, when im ready,i will tell u..no hurry in africa n all that!
Mbu,if she had said something, things wlda been sorted.
oo did i tell u that Mark n sis where dating thru the 2 yr peroid n infact sis was carryin his baby (at time of reconciation effort)???? i hear if her sis had told her, she wlda known, things would have been different.
I beg differ (result of reading many nigeran blogs!)altho after my most recent conversation, im not too sure...
My arguement was that by the time i throw u out for 2 yrs,it cant be coz u stole bestfriend, there's more to the story. But on further reflection, women are wierd! they can throw u out coz u jammed to sms them one day or u took like a comb for over its 5 minute limit. So tis actually possible that the sis thot twas something as simple as that.
Thing is if we are actually going to aportion blame, then MARK beez the problem.i mean he proposed to one chick and went n slept with the sis. N then didnt have the nerve to come back to DL to explain or even explain to this sis he'd been with for 2 yrs. like did he think twld neever come out???? plus,how do u live each day knowing u broke up a family??????
Men!!!
Now the actual post.....
So i read DesparateLady's story with deep compassion. I mean, no one should live through this.
The lufutfut of it is she was trying to forgive her younger sister as a result of her sis "stealing her man"..n i mean all out stealing. twas soo bad that one the day she discovered the betrayal, she kicked sis outa the house n cut all communication for two years. Two years!!!! Banange! Dunno if i cld do that, im generally one of those "motherearth type peeps" always wanting peace, love and democracy. Depressing, if u really think about it,twld mean being walked all over all the time...sigh...
But back to madams dilema, was speaking to someone who said your sis shouldnt do that to you. I agree. "Shouldnt" being the key word,because realistically, the only thing that changes is motivation when people set out to "get" your man.
Doll was also telling me how her sisters be over guyz and as sisters (4) they tend to have each others Xtics so its very possible that guyz myt move amongst them or be "confused" into thinkin he liked shelly more than Prissy or Doll or some odd nonsence. In such cases, tis ayt if the guy gets that u r just harmlessly "being around" and arent out to get him...unless ofcourse u are, then that presents a problem.
The Quarterback finks it shows the guy has good taste, if he moves within the family..lol..something to do with u atleast knowing the competition other than it being some chick u havent the slightest about.
Dunno abt that one.
My theory is however, that however tempting my friend,sister/enemy/watever is it all comes down to the guy. Should u decide to galivant with this other sister, then by all means do so..it means u were going to and i shdna trusted u to begin with. Plus in a wierd twist of fate, it also means u cannot be trusted by sister2...if she could "steal" you, u will be stolen from her too.. which is y playaz never prosper, DaMan. ((eh! did i just pull out a school motto!))
but back to DL (thats Desparate Lady) for u non followers (grins)was talking to yet another peep who thot DL had only herself to blame, she shda been honest right from the start, teling her sis she was engaged to the dude and all.
I dont see why i should tell u, i mean, its my relationship right, when im ready,i will tell u..no hurry in africa n all that!
Mbu,if she had said something, things wlda been sorted.
oo did i tell u that Mark n sis where dating thru the 2 yr peroid n infact sis was carryin his baby (at time of reconciation effort)???? i hear if her sis had told her, she wlda known, things would have been different.
I beg differ (result of reading many nigeran blogs!)altho after my most recent conversation, im not too sure...
My arguement was that by the time i throw u out for 2 yrs,it cant be coz u stole bestfriend, there's more to the story. But on further reflection, women are wierd! they can throw u out coz u jammed to sms them one day or u took like a comb for over its 5 minute limit. So tis actually possible that the sis thot twas something as simple as that.
Thing is if we are actually going to aportion blame, then MARK beez the problem.i mean he proposed to one chick and went n slept with the sis. N then didnt have the nerve to come back to DL to explain or even explain to this sis he'd been with for 2 yrs. like did he think twld neever come out???? plus,how do u live each day knowing u broke up a family??????
Men!!!
DL brought it on herself, if she hadn't fooled the sisters into believing her fiance was just her bestfriend maybe whatever happened would not have happened.
And oh, socks!!!
Now lemme hear someone claim mbu I be getting socks only at Cherie's.
Ok Magoo
Nuff sed..
Guessing she didna see it coming!
sad story
life can be very tight at times... two years of holding a grudge is a long time but i understand where she's coming from
Oh just been at Dl's terrible but i guess she should have been more open... And in another way if something was meant to happen then noone can change it's corse maybe she is lucky it happened then and not later when she is married to the guy
DL should just let go and move on. no use holding grudges to her death. but i do feel for her
hey, dd you go for happy hour?
yeah i read that story too, and i think DL already knows she should have told, which is why she is having a hard time with the issue. She knows it would have helped matters or even prevented the whole mess, but sometimes when you are angry, you cant see straight. I pray that they find a way to sort it out and forgibe each other somehow!
I have 3 sisters, and i cant imagine sharing men with them. The men that've ever tried moving through my sisters to me have been cursed and embarrassed beyond all limitations. I dont tolerate that. Which reminds me, i have one of those fools to blog about oooo!
Anyway, Happy new year hun
Hope Heath RIP
rip.2 him